Forgiving Others Ain't Easy, But Here Is What You Need to Do First! Today I'm writing about forgiveness as the path to finding peace. But before I jump in, I want to make sure you know Forgiveness doesn't mean allowing ourselves to be abused. More on that later....

Breathing Permanently Changed the Way I Pray Who would have thought a deep breath in the belly, followed by a deep breath in the chest, followed by a warrior-like exhalation from the mouth would introduce me to God? As a coach and 12-step practitioner I’m always on...

This Tool for Dealing with a Mean Boss Can Also Be Used in Love Relationships! If you love, hate, are in lust with or employed by a toxic person aka narcissist, emotional abuser or Asshat, you probably know you are right about them. They have a serious problem and you...

In my research, I wanted to discover where the phrase “noncommittal man” first reared its ignominious head, so I could put it in historical context to help explain it to so many confused and angry modern-day women. Here is what Google Search had in store for...

9. Mr. We're-Just-Friends: This is the guy who has a lot of girl "friends." He says you shouldn't be threatened by him having friends of the opposite sex. If you have a problem with it, it's your own insecurity and neuroses, it's not the fact...

Hello Recovery Road Warriors -- I just spent the last week driving all over the world to promote my new book, She Dated the Asshats, But Married the Good Guy: How to Go From Toxic Love to Real Love in 12 Exercises. In this particular clip...

"Shannon, I really think you ought to go to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous," my Al-Anon sponsor told me one morning when I was in the thick of my final toxic relationship. I instantly recoiled. Was she calling me a nymphomaniac? At age 32 I could...

Healing Toxic Shame Can Heal Your Life As a Twelve-Step recovery coach I've found the journals I kept during the years I dated a narcissist (whom I sometimes delightfully refer to as an Asshat) to be an incredibly helpful tool for coaching clients who're also in...

My client Greta is involved with a Narcissist (aka Asshat) named Jacob. Since their relationship began two years ago Greta's life has been in chaos. One feeling that comes up time and time again for Greta is Self-Doubt. I asked her to journal about the relationship...