Hello Fellow Recovery Ninjas, It's Week 14 of the Asshat Recovery Program! If you're just arriving for the first time you'll want to start your journey HERE. This week is Character Trait #3 found in partners of Asshats:  The dreaded LOW SELF-ESTEEM. Low Self-Esteem isn't just for middle schoolers...

Hello Fellow Recovery Ninjas -- I've been a bit out of the loop as I flew off to work in Syrian refugee camps in Greece for the last two weeks. It was an incredible experience and reminded me of how fortunate we are to actually have the...

There's a bummer therapists, psychologists and life coaches don't like to tell. It's this: Recovery hurts. It is not all Zippity Doo Da, Zippity Yay. My, Oh my, What a Wonderful Day!!  Nope.  Whether we're recovering from drugs, alcohol, overworking, gambling, perfectionism or codependency (which is the inability...

Hello fellow marrieds or soon-to-be-marrieds or who-the-hell-wants-to-be-married?s I've got two new married sex articles running rampant across my literary site, The Woman Formerly Known As Beautiful, as I type and I know you don't want to miss them. So I give you: 6 Things She Was Thinking During...

Over ten posts I'm going to reveal and describe the 10 common traits in partners of Asshats/Toxic People. This week we have: Trait #1 -- A Generational Susceptibility to Toxic People Like all forms of abuse, from the minor … unpredictability and inconsistency, to the most extreme...

This article first appeared in the Huffington Post and garnered over 300 comments with an equal amount of different points of view. What follows are some surprising statistics that might help you make a decision about your bad marriage. "When I look at his face I...

The clients I work with come from all walks of life. Some are women, some are men. Some are professionals, others unemployed. The youngest is in her 20s, the oldest in his 60s. But there's one common thread that connects them. Shame. Shame that they're in or...

Over the next 10 weeks I want to share the 10 Character Traits in People who are Susceptible to Toxic or Emotionally Abusive Relationships. But first I need to tell you the story of a girl I envied.  The Girl Who Lived When I was dating Mr....