He (or she) is cheating on you. This one isn’t really a red flag. It’s more like an anvil that’s been dropped on your head. He secretly cheats on you. He overtly cheats on you. He cheats on you in a box, with a fox, wearing socks. Then,...

He tells you you're paranoid when you see signs that he's cheating. In my final toxic relationship with a man I call Mr. Cruelly Handsome it took dating two years before he finally gave me a key to his apartment. When that day arrived I was thrilled....

This article first appeared in Huffington Post Women: Living with a philandering Asshat brought me to my knees. So I started attending CODA (Codependents Anonymous), a 12-step program that helps people who are addicted to other people, and working the program with the passion of The...

(At the time this photograph was taken, my boyfriend/toxic lover kept telling me that I had unattractive cellulite on my legs. I stopped wearing skirts and shorts and became incredibly self-conscious about my body. I took these photos to take my body back. And now,...

This article appeared first in The Huffington Post Women's section. The question of whether Ben Affleck did or did not cheat with the nanny on his soon-to-be ex-wife Jennifer Garner has gotten me wondering how many times Jen must've taken him back over the years and...

This story was first featured in HuffPo GPS for the Soul. Are you dating a Casanova? Casanova (via The Urban Dictionary): A smooth-talking charmer who has mastered the art of finding, meeting, attracting and seducing beautiful women into the bedroom. Once he accomplishes his goal, he leaves the woman...

This post first appeared on my literary site The Woman Formerly Known As Beautiful. My husband is a very canny man. But I didn't realize exactly how much so until last Mother's Day. I'd convinced him we should spend it with his mother. (Did an inchoate Dread shadow...

Hello Relationship Warrior and welcome to week 7 of The Asshat Recovery Program online. If this is your first visit and you want to start from the beginning CLICK HERE. This week I reveal Red Flag #6 that you might be dating an Asshat and need to...

If your (wo)man does attend an event with family and friends, he makes sure you pay by acting like a grumpy mute the whole time. He won't talk. Or smile. Or engage in any conversations. (This goes for female Asshats too, but I use the male...

Hello Relationship Warrior, welcome to week 5 of The Asshat Recovery Program online. If this is your first visit and you want to start from the beginning CLICK HERE. This week I reveal the 4th Red Flag that you might be dating an Asshat and need...