Over ten posts I'm going to reveal and describe the 10 common traits in partners of Asshats/Toxic People. This week we have: Trait #1 -- A Generational Susceptibility to Toxic People Like all forms of abuse, from the minor … unpredictability and inconsistency, to the most extreme...

This article first appeared in the Huffington Post and garnered over 300 comments with an equal amount of different points of view. What follows are some surprising statistics that might help you make a decision about your bad marriage. "When I look at his face I...

The clients I work with come from all walks of life. Some are women, some are men. Some are professionals, others unemployed. The youngest is in her 20s, the oldest in his 60s. But there's one common thread that connects them. Shame. Shame that they're in or...

Over the next 10 weeks I want to share the 10 Character Traits in People who are Susceptible to Toxic or Emotionally Abusive Relationships. But first I need to tell you the story of a girl I envied.  The Girl Who Lived When I was dating Mr....

I've arrived at the Mothership. My tale of Married Sex and playing "The Game" with my husband graces the Intimacy Spread in "O" The Oprah Magazine in the October 2015 issue. I'm on page 121! I'd love to hear your thoughts on the piece! xo S...

He (or she) is cheating on you. This one isn’t really a red flag. It’s more like an anvil that’s been dropped on your head. He secretly cheats on you. He overtly cheats on you. He cheats on you in a box, with a fox, wearing socks. Then,...

He tells you you're paranoid when you see signs that he's cheating. In my final toxic relationship with a man I call Mr. Cruelly Handsome it took dating two years before he finally gave me a key to his apartment. When that day arrived I was thrilled....

This article first appeared in Huffington Post Women: Living with a philandering Asshat brought me to my knees. So I started attending CODA (Codependents Anonymous), a 12-step program that helps people who are addicted to other people, and working the program with the passion of The...

(At the time this photograph was taken, my boyfriend/toxic lover kept telling me that I had unattractive cellulite on my legs. I stopped wearing skirts and shorts and became incredibly self-conscious about my body. I took these photos to take my body back. And now,...