I met my friend Mistress Justine for lunch on Abbot Kinney in Venice on Friday. That’s not her real name, but it should be. She and her husband, Raoul (also a pseudonym) have been married fifteen years. The last time we spoke Justine admitted their sex...

Newlyweds Margaret and David are still figuring out the sexual dynamics of their marriage.   In bed Margaret is soft. Demure. Enticing as Brigitte Bardot in And God Created Woman, with doe-like come-hither glances and marzipan hair.   She’s as tremulous as the surface of...

In case you didn't know, my husband and Henry and I are working our way through that seminal book 101 Nights of Great Sex by the dulcet Laura Corn. This is our second foray into the book. Our first adventure, The Velvet Tongue, was a smash hit. Let...

I've been vigilant about not scaring my atheist or agnostic readers away by waxing too Woo-Woo spiritual on this site. I'm incredibly skeptical when it comes to religion. Jim Jones from Jonestown, anyone? David Koresh from Waco Texas? And did you know Scientology is considered a...

Recovering from Sexual Abuse

Several years ago when I was at a particularly low point in my life; I was a failing actress in an emotionally abusive relationship, one woman's story changed the way I defined success. For seven years I was an active participant in the Al-Anon 12-step program which I credit for helping me completely turn my life around, and it was in one of these meetings that I heard Julia's (a pseudonym) story. Julia was a fair-skinned, strawberry blonde with hidden eyes and bitten down nails. She always sat in the back of this thirty to fifty person meeting. I rarely noticed her because her withdrawn, tomb-silent energy made her invisible; almost a cypher in a room of messy, emotional, larger-than-life people fighting to recover from volatile, dramatic pasts.

How to get out of an Abusive Relationship? Self-Awareness!

Asshats can squelch your Bad-Assery. You are a Badass. You just know you are. You have at least ten jets that propel you through your badass life. The problem is, when you date an Asshat, they can drain your jets. So instead of having all ten of your jets at your disposal, trying to change and control an Asshat can use up the energy from each and every one of those jets. I’ll offer myself as a case study: