I have a client I'll call Josie who has had three pregnancy scares in the last year. My initial advice was fairly simple, "Start using birth control, yo!" I'd helped Josie get out of a long-term, toxic relationship so she thought that if she quit taking birth control pills she'd be less likely to have casual sex and end up in another inappropriate relationship based solely on hormones and headed nowhere fast. But sex is a sticky-wicket for we mere mortals and the temptation proved to be too much three times in the last year and because she hadn't intended to have sex, birth control was forgotten in the heat of the moment.

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship: First, Remember ...

Addiction to a person is no different than addiction to a substance.All of the same symptoms can appear:
  • Descent into a shame-spiral about the addiction.
  • An inability to control your own behavior often participating in self-destructive, compulsive and furtive activities.
  • The loss of positive relationships with other family and friends.
  • Poor performance at school or work. And the list goes on.
Beating your addiction to the Asshat isn’t just mind over matter, but the first and most essential step toward recovery does come from your mind; which is admitting to yourself (and then to another person and/or supportive group) that you have a problem.

Larry writes to ask a topic that might be familiar to those of us who have been married before the Dawn of Time. I hope my answer helps and would love your feedback in the comments below. xo S If you find my married sex advice...

Hello Dear Reader, Welcome to my very first "Ask Shannon" where I respond to readers' questions with my usual Je ne sais pas! This one's an absolute must when it comes to dating advice. TAKE IT SLOW! If you find my advice useful be sure to OPT-IN to...

Let's set the scene, shall we? You're madly in love/lust with a God we'll call Val (if you're a male reader replace that with a Goddess we'll also call Val). Val is sexy and gorgeous and you're as whipped as Paris was by Helen of Troy. But being...

This post was originally published on my literary site, The Woman Formerly Known as Beautiful. Sometimes married sex sucks. And it doesn't suck because we no longer love our spouse. It sucks because we've lost track of our spouse. Here's yet one more way I rediscovered...