Admit it. Bad Boys & Girls Are Exciting. And They're Ruining Our Lives! (The Life of a Love Addict)
I used to get miffed when "nice guys" who wanted to date me bitterly cried, "All women just want to date Bad Boys!"
They may've been right. At...
You know you're doing it, aren't you? Giving the Asshat credit for doing the absolute minimum required to keep a relationship trudging along?What do I mean by Asshat? This:
They don't call when they say they will.
They don't show up when expected.
They brood at social gatherings with friends and family.
You're fairly certain they're cheating on you in office cubicles, toilet stalls and perhaps even in your own bed.
These are all the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship.There are some people for whom the dyed-in-Charmin Asshat holds no charm. These emotionally healthy people kick Asshats to the curb once they've disappointed them for the very first time.Then there are the rest of us.We will suffer Asshats gladly for weeks, months, nay years at a time.I was an Asshat-magnet for approximately ten years. Asshats could sniff out my needy co-dependence from 100 miles away as the crow flies.And one of the things that kept me trapped in my Asshatalicious relationship FOR FIVE YEARS was my ability to take the Asshat's bread crumbs and whip them into a rustic loaf, because I absolutely wanted to make a case for staying in the relationship.For example: