There's a bummer therapists, psychologists and life coaches don't like to tell. It's this: Recovery hurts. It is not all Zippity Doo Da, Zippity Yay. My, Oh my, What a Wonderful Day!!  Nope.  Whether we're recovering from drugs, alcohol, overworking, gambling, perfectionism or codependency (which is the inability...

Some of us think we're God because we believe we can change other people. Or we think that by changing our own behavior, we can impact and change the behavior of our partner. When we're in a functional, loving relationship with a normal, healthy adult changing our...