Hello Love Ninja -- I'm about to deliver the best dating advice for people who feel clueless and seem to crash and brun. Searing Epiphany #1: Sharing Intimate Details Isn't Intimacy What's the most intimate thing you've revealed to a seat mate on a long airplane flight?...
"I know I need to end this relationship, but I texted him three times yesterday. Why did I do that? What's wrong with me?" -- says someone addicted to Love This is a common refrain from many of my private clients. These are loving, considerate, intelligent...
Healing Toxic Shame Can Heal Your Life As a Twelve-Step recovery coach I've found the journals I kept during the years I dated a narcissist (whom I sometimes delightfully refer to as an Asshat) to be an incredibly helpful tool for coaching clients who're also in...
She wants a family, but this keeps her from breaking the cycle of abuse. My client Margaret has been stuck in a dead-end, emotionally abusive relationship with Colin for several years and is desperate to unstick herself, because she turns thirty-six this fall and her ovaries are...
Hello Fellow Recovery Ninjas, It's Week 14 of the Asshat Recovery Program! If you're just arriving for the first time you'll want to start your journey HERE. This week is Character Trait #3 found in partners of Asshats: The dreaded LOW SELF-ESTEEM. Low Self-Esteem isn't just for middle schoolers...
Hello Fellow Recovery Ninjas -- I've been a bit out of the loop as I flew off to work in Syrian refugee camps in Greece for the last two weeks. It was an incredible experience and reminded me of how fortunate we are to actually have the...
Over ten posts I'm going to reveal and describe the 10 common traits in partners of Asshats/Toxic People. This week we have: Trait #1 -- A Generational Susceptibility to Toxic People Like all forms of abuse, from the minor … unpredictability and inconsistency, to the most extreme...
Over the next 10 weeks I want to share the 10 Character Traits in People who are Susceptible to Toxic or Emotionally Abusive Relationships. But first I need to tell you the story of a girl I envied. The Girl Who Lived When I was dating Mr....
This article appeared first in The Huffington Post Women's section. The question of whether Ben Affleck did or did not cheat with the nanny on his soon-to-be ex-wife Jennifer Garner has gotten me wondering how many times Jen must've taken him back over the years and...
Welcome to my How to Avoid Toxic Relationships to Find Real Love Tutorial. Over the next several months we'll be working together to discover if you're in a toxic relationship and, if so, how to extricate yourself in order to find the love that will help...