Detachment Archives - Shannon Colleary

20 May A Quick “Brain Trick” for Dealing with Mean People

Posted at 23:25h in Dating & Recovery Articles, Detachment, How to Have Healthy Boundaries by Shannon 3 Comments

"I am so pissed off at you! Why do we have to celebrate every single holiday together, including Ground Hog Day?! You're smothering me!!" "Fine, if you don't want to see me then maybe we just should never see each other again since you hate me...

07 Mar Don’t Make “THIS” Common Mistake in Your Relationship

Posted at 15:50h in Dating & Recovery Articles, Detachment by Shannon 1 Comment

"I know what he should do! He should definitely stop drinking a Big Gulp of tequila in bed every night after losing all of his paycheck playing online Bingo, which was supposed to be spent on paying off our second mortgage." -- Anyone who has...

14 Apr How to Leave a Toxic Relationship: 11 Actionable Tasks

Posted at 19:29h in Codependent Character Traits, Dating & Recovery Articles, Detachment, Relationship & Recovery Tools by Shannon 0 Comments

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship: First, Remember ...

Addiction to a person is no different than addiction to a substance.All of the same symptoms can appear:

Descent into a shame-spiral about the addiction.
An inability to control your own behavior often participating in self-destructive, compulsive and furtive activities.
The loss of positive relationships with other family and friends.
Poor performance at school or work. And the list goes on.

Beating your addiction to the Asshat isn’t just mind over matter, but the first and most essential step toward recovery does come from your mind; which is admitting to yourself (and then to another person and/or supportive group) that you have a problem.