In my research, I wanted to discover where the phrase “noncommittal man” first reared its ignominious head, so I could put it in historical context to help explain it to so many confused and angry modern-day women. Here is what Google Search had in store for...
9. Mr. We're-Just-Friends: This is the guy who has a lot of girl "friends." He says you shouldn't be threatened by him having friends of the opposite sex. If you have a problem with it, it's your own insecurity and neuroses, it's not the fact...
Hello Recovery Road Warriors -- I just spent the last week driving all over the world to promote my new book, She Dated the Asshats, But Married the Good Guy: How to Go From Toxic Love to Real Love in 12 Exercises. In this particular clip...
"Shannon, I really think you ought to go to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous," my Al-Anon sponsor told me one morning when I was in the thick of my final toxic relationship. I instantly recoiled. Was she calling me a nymphomaniac? At age 32 I could...
Healing Toxic Shame Can Heal Your Life As a Twelve-Step recovery coach I've found the journals I kept during the years I dated a narcissist (whom I sometimes delightfully refer to as an Asshat) to be an incredibly helpful tool for coaching clients who're also in...
My client Greta is involved with a Narcissist (aka Asshat) named Jacob. Since their relationship began two years ago Greta's life has been in chaos. One feeling that comes up time and time again for Greta is Self-Doubt. I asked her to journal about the relationship...
Today I've been happily married to a sweetheart for 16 years, so this holiday season the biggest stressors are finding the right presents for loved ones and not getting as fat as the fatted calf I'll most likely be eating. But the holidays were always painful...
You Try to Get Out, But He Keeps Pulling You Back In! If you’ve dated a commitment phobic man, you might be very familiar with his Pursue/Panic Syndrome: He wants you. You give in. Then he doesn’t want you. It hurts. You find the strength to...
Why do Women Stay in Abusive Relationships? My boyfriend (who we'll call Xavier) and I hadn't made love in a month. That's because exactly one month earlier -- at approximately 11:58 and 30 seconds p.m. -- I walked into his apartment to discover another woman there. Still...
The Kids Are Gone and Now It's Just Us. You stand at the curb in front of a dorm at AnyPlace College and watch your youngest child, with attendant duffle bag, disappear inside. Your spouse of at least 18 years hovers next to you, and suddenly this...